Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Summer List 2012

Thanks for all of you who expressed concern after my blog about the difficulty of adjusting to life with two children.  We are in a groove now and I feel like my old self again (just slightly more frazzled). 

It's time to unveil my Summer List for 2012.  I am so excited to complete each item.  For those of you who care (drumroll please)... here it is!

Visit Lake Tobias
Have a picnic and swimming at Fuller Lake
Spend an evening at the Municipal Pool
Make bubble art
Finish shutters
Make frozen bananas
Paint my nails sea foam green
Make a water pinata
Paint with ice cubes
Go to Britton Park
Feed the ducks and fish at City Park
Make homemade ice cream in a bag
Get a couples massage at Warm Springs
Go to the pet store
Catch lightning bugs
Make donuts around the campfire
Take Amirah to Voila
Watch fireworks
Sleep all night long

I hope to include pictures of each event as I check them off.  Bring on the fun!

Monday, June 18, 2012

In Honor of Father's Day

I love the relationship that Ysmaille and Amirah have.  She absolutely adores her daddy.  For Father's Day this year she drew him a beautiful card which she was so proud to give him.  I wanted to add something extra special so I interviewed her about her daddy and this is what she had to say.

Mommy: How old is Daddy?
Amirah: 2
M:  Where was Daddy born?
A:  He was born like me.
M:  What is Daddy's favorite color?
A:  Blue
M:  What does Daddy always say?
A:  "I need a snack."
M:  What is Daddy's job?
A:  Fixing that shelf and putting Xander in the swing.
M:  What does Daddy do when he wakes up in the morning?
A:  He sleeps.
M:  When does Daddy laugh?
A:  He laughs when I cry.
M:  What is Daddy's favorite food?
A:  Sandwiches
M:  Why do you love your Daddy?
A:  I need my Daddy.  I love my Daddy.

And there you have it.  Out of the mouth of a two year old...

Sunday, June 10, 2012

Happiness Project

How ironic that in the very middle of my year-long happiness project I found myself very unhappy.  One evening not that long ago I asked Ysmaille if he thought I had post-partum depression.  I even found myself googling the symptoms.  When I thought about the summer ahead of me I felt hopeless.  Long days ahead of me with two kids... would I survive? 

Here's what's been happening over the past three weeks.  We left the hospital and haven't slept since.  Xander, although very content in general, likes to eat.  A lot.  In fact he was up pretty consitantly every two hours for weeks.  Amirah, my beautiful, spirited princess is breaking my heart.  She's always been a little feisty, but I worry that she feels misplaced and it makes me sad.  She is being defiant and agressive and I know that having a new baby in the family is rocking her world.  On top of it all we decided to potty train her.  We figured the newborn no-sleep phase is already a little "hellish" so why not just get it all done.  Maybe it was smart.  Maybe we are insane. 

I'll be honest.  When people told me adding another baby to the mix would be a challenge I didn't believe them.  Not really.  I knew it would be an adjustment, but I wasn't fully prepared.  I am eating humble pie.  I can't do it all.  My children are not angels and I cry a lot.  Amirah cries a lot.  Xander cries a lot.  The only one able to hold it together is Ysmaille.  Although I suspect he probably feels like crying too. 

So, how's the happiness project going?   It has skidded to a halt.  My goal for the month of June is simple.  Survive.  I wrote to goals in my happiness journal-- get Amirah potty trained and get Xander to sleep for four hour stretches.  If I accomplish those two things I will indeed be happy. 

On another note, I think I am coming out of my fog.  I am actually looking forward to summer now.  In true Melanie style I've made a schedule for us to follow because Ysmaille goes back to work tomorrow and I need to have some kind of plan.  I've also made a summer list of things we want to do.  I'll share that in an upcoming blog.  Xander slept for 3.5 hour stretches last night.  Amirah had only one accident yesterday.  I am pretty sure I made it through the entire day without shedding a tear. Things are looking up.